Interesting observation [WayBack] Thread by @SNeurotypicals:
Neurotypical social skills develop very early on. They are making friends at 5 and negotiating complex diplomatic scenarios at 10. This can cause NT parents to despair that their kids are behind, and have stopped developing at 8 or 10 or 18 or 25. But we haven’t.For many NDs, social skills development just takes longer. Lacking the innate instincts of neurotypicals, we have to build our frameworks using experience and the scientific method. It takes sophisticated skills and higher order thinking. I hit my stride in my late 20s.
and [WayBack] later on (on neurotypicals versus neurodivergents:
it’s the double empathy problem. They don’t understand us or themselves, we don’t understand them or ourselves (to begin with), but the onus is on us to fix it so we end up having to figure out both sides. It’s an achievement that we make any headway at all.
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–jeroen